Sometimes life can get so serious that we forget to have fun with LOVE. It feels so good to just relax and let go where love is concerned. It feels so comfortable and easy to just have fun!!
I LOVE having new adventures and new experiences. Sometimes it takes being brave and having the courage to do that. Going somewhere by yourself where you have never been before or just hanging out playing video games together at the arcade are just a couple of examples to open yourself up to having more fun. Perhaps it’s doing something you know your partner would like or just being willing and open to do things a little differently. That is all it takes to CREATE GREAT LOVE in your life. Allowing change can open you up to a whole new world of exciting possibilities. Taking the first step to create more fun, is setting the intention to have fun before you take the action.
Let’s have some fun this week!!
I am very excited to share this week’s picture with you…It is my new logo!!!
“Love is being stupid together.” – Paul Valery (French Poet & Philosopher)
I often read the daily news online at Yahoo and it is guaranteed there is sure to be an article somewhere on there about love and relationships. Often times it’s a ‘how to’ piece. Like how to have a successful marriage or what to do on a date. This week though was different. I came across a piece about a woman who is successful, has a good career, owns her own home however she was unmarried. She went on to explain that the people around her constantly question what is wrong with her and why isn’t she married with children. It was so refreshing to hear her say that she felt like people do not question marriage or relationships or having children that they just expect that is what everyone should do. Often times it’s out of tradition not necessarily because we actually want it.
I agree wholeheartedly that we must really look at our own individual situations and lives and ask ourselves questions like: Do I want to be married? Do I want to have children? Do I want to have a committed relationship? When it comes to creating great love THERE ARE NO RULES! That is the gift we have been given as humans – we get to choose. We get to decide what GREAT LOVE looks like to us. It does not have to conform to anyone else’s view or opinion. It is such an individual choice. Thank goodness we no longer live in the times of Jane Austen when women had to marry well to secure their future. Instead now we get to create our own future exactly as we want it to be. What a relief!!!
This week’s picture was right beside me on the freeway in Los Angeles. I find the words such a great reminder and I just adore that the car is red!!!
“In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities”.
– Janos Arnay (Hungarian Journalist, Writer & Poet)
For a long time I knew that I desired a relationship based on SACRED LOVE. What does the word sacred mean? “Sacred is something that is held in high regard. Something beautiful and untarnished. A thing that is left undisturbed so as to be an Inspiration to others. Something loved and revered”. That describes it PERFECTLY! The part of this definition that resonates so deeply with me is SO AS TO BE AN INSPIRATION TO OTHERS. That is so important to inspire other people to show them that we can have beautiful love relationships. That they are real. That they do exist and here is an example for you to see. It’s about what you demonstrate and show to yourself, your partner and the world.
GREAT LOVE is very pure it cuts right through all the illusions of fear, lack, scarcity to the truth at the center of our being.
One of my all time favorite quotes about love comes from the movie “Moulin Rouge” by the brilliant Baz Luhrmann. “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return”. I am beginning to understand that there are a lot of people in this world who don’t realize they cut themselves off to some of the most magical and wonderful experiences of love. They think they will be safe and protected behind the wall they have created around their heart. However, once their heart and soul has had a taste of GREAT LOVE there is no going back. Once you know even a little, how wonderful true love can be, you can never deny yourself that pleasure ever again. The next step is to be courageous and let it happen.
This week’s picture comes directly from the beauty and sacredness of Mother Nature…truly amazing!!!
“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”
– James Baldwin (American Writer, Poet, Playwright & Civil Rights Activist)
We have all heard the saying “Love is Greater than Fear”. We can hear these words over and over again however the key is to truly believe in them. Love truly is the strongest force on the planet. Love creates the miracle of human life.
When GREAT LOVE exists between two people it really does have the power to move mountains. Simply put – being loved makes you more powerful. When you know you are loved it gives you the courage and strength that you never realized you had. Knowing there is another person who supports you 100% means everything.
Sometimes relationships can get complicated and even a bit messy, however through it all the power of GREAT LOVE is the one and only constant that is always present. When you have that as your knowingness, your foundation and your truth, any illusion of obstacles can be overcome.
You don’t need to know how, you just have to be willing. That’s all it takes is a willingness to open to the power of love and let it guide you because it will if you let it.
My picture this week came to me right outside my front door. It is the most simple and easy expression of LOVE that was there to greet me…the beauty of a couple taking a walk with their dog with his arm gently draped over his sweetheart…that’s true bliss in my book!
“The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase”. – Sir Hugh Walpole (New Zealand born English Novelist & Hollywood Script Writer)
Great Love feels like sweet gentle kisses on the nape of your neck. Great Love feels like intertwining your bodies together from your toes to your legs, arms and hands. Great Love feels like lying on the sofa holding hands while watching TV together. Great Love feels like you are home when you are with your sweetheart. Great Love feels like never giving up. Great Love feels like long hugs where your heartbeats combine. Great Love feels like you just want to be close. Great Love feels like wherever they are you just want to be there. Great Love feels like contributing to each other’s lives making them better in some way. Great Love feels like staring lovingly into each other’s eyes from opposite sides of a room filled with people. Great Love feels like your sweetheart cooking a meal for you just the way you like it. Great Love feels like having a new adventure together. Great Love feels like having an intimate conversation with each other regarding a topic you are passionate about.
When you find your Great Love you just know. It is a feeling deep inside. No matter if there are obstacles to overcome, you are certain they will be solved. No matter how or why. No matter the time, space or distance. No matter what. Where does this knowingness come from? It comes from your soul. From the deepest part of your intuition. From the light that is within you.
My picture this week came to me as I was walking out my front door. Just a day before there was nothing and then today – full bloom – a bright shining sunfilled light. I am certain that Great Love went into the creation of this….
“Love is like a rosebush sometimes it is pruned to reveal only the bare twigs it is then you must have faith and patience that the beautiful roses are on their way and will bloom and flourish into their fullness.” – Samantha Rosen
As I gather my thoughts to write this week’s post I feel some trepidation about the topic I have chosen. This one pushes a lot of people’s buttons – including my own! TRUST in the dictionary is defined as “Someone or something that is reliable, good, honest and effective” and also “Confident expectation of something; hope.” Phew just typing that makes me want to take a deep breath!
Where do I begin?
I think trust for me has become something where my view has truly changed. I used to think that it was the ‘be all and end all’ that if trust was broken, that was it. The final straw. No coming back from that one. However, my observations and experiences have begun to change the way I look at this word and how it is expressed in a relationship. First of all I used to think that if trust was ‘broken’ in some way that it was someone doing this awful thing to me. Now I have come to understand that if trust is broken the person who did that actually did it to themselves. Seeing it from this different perspective has helped me to have compassion for the other person. There can be many reasons why they felt they needed to behave in a certain way – from unresolved childhood issues, to lack of role models, to allowing their ego to take over, the list goes on. I am not advocating for unhealthy relationships, I just feel there needs to be more flexibility in this word TRUST as it pertains to CREATING GREAT LOVE.
Sometimes as human beings we can make things so very complex and complicated. I’m not sure why this happens, maybe we just forget about the simplicity of life. Flowers do not struggle to grow, the sun does not struggle to shine. It’s still shinning above the clouds even when we can’t see it.
I feel the best thing to do is allow someone to be who they are. If you do not like a behavior you are seeing or experiencing you can speak up and express how you feel and then put your focus on the things that you do love and appreciate about them. It’s up to you to change your thoughts on how you perceive things that happen. Once you do this, one of two things will happen – either the person’s behavior will change to meet you where you are focused or they will continue as they are and someone else will come into your life who is more in alignment with what you desire.
One of the best pieces of advice on love came to me from a very wise 7 year old girl she simply said “When you love someone, you just love them.” I could not have put it better myself.
This week’s picture came to me while I was walking by a shop. It’s simple and sweet and a beautiful reminder…..
“We can only learn to love by loving.”
– Iris Murdoch (British Author & Philosopher)
One of the first steps to CREATE GREAT LOVE is to believe in it!
You have to believe it is possible in order to create it for yourself in your life. I feel so truly grateful to have always known and believed in LOVE. It’s just a part of who I am. What is truly amazing about that is I never had any demonstrations of it in my experience growing up. I never saw those around me demonstrating GREAT LOVE but somewhere there was a knowingness that it existed, that is was real and that is was possible for me and for everyone.
What is a belief? A belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again. So I encourage you to examine what your beliefs are around the topic of LOVE. And if those beliefs are no longer of value to you then begin the process of changing them. How do you do that you may ask? Well it is a moment by moment choice. When you catch yourself having a negative or outdated thought about LOVE, you can choose to pause in that moment and say to yourself “Does this thought feel good to me?” If it doesn’t, then replace it with a thought that does feel good and is more in alignment with the type of GREAT LOVE you wish to CREATE. An example would be “I always have bad luck with love.” The new thought to replace that could be “Today is a fresh new day. I am no longer living in the past. I get to create my love life as I want it to be now.”
Great LOVE is truly magical…Just Believe!
My picture this week continues the hat theme! My dear friend who is a huge tennis fan got into the car with me and this is what she was wearing….
“The past does not equal the future.” – Anthony Robbins