TOP 5 WAYS TO CREATE GREAT LOVE:
1. Understand yourself and what you want to create in your relationship
2. Know that your sense of well being is not dependent on someone else’s behavior
3. Focus on what you want
4. Decide that your happiness will be dependent only on your own alignment
5. Simply imagine your life the way you want it to be
My picture this week is a bride about to walk down the aisle in a beautiful historic church in Warsaw, Poland.
“Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove.
O no, it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken”
– William Shakespeare
The rewards of love are huge and beyond description. However, sometimes Love asks things from us:
Love asks us to be daring
Love asks us to be brave
Love asks us to step outside of our comfort zone
Love asks us to stretch and grow
Love asks us to take risks
If we are able to do any one of these things at the time when it is called for, we are guaranteed to be rewarded with the greatest LOVE we have ever known.
Why doesn’t everyone have this type of GREAT LOVE?
Because not everyone is willing to take such a big leap of faith
Because it’s scary
Because we can get hurt
Because we can appear foolish
However, if we just take that next step what we find is the most wonderful confidence in ourselves that we could ever imagine. We become more of our true selves. We become more of the person we knew was always inside of us, we just had to have the courage to take action.
Why would we go through all of this?
Because our hearts and souls know the absolute exquisite, magnificient, deliciousness that is TRUE LOVE.
My picture this week was on the car right in front of me while I was in the grocery store parking lot… it says everything.
This week CHOOSE LOVE!
“ Courageousness is not the absence of fear. It is the state of battling fear to do what frightens you anyway. “– Anonymous
What is a good relationship to me?
A wonderful therapist friend of mine encouraged me to ask myself that question. When she first proposed it to me it felt overwhelming to answer. It also felt a little scary to me.
I think that it is a huge question and one we don’t ever seem to ask ourselves. What does a good relationship look like in my opinion?
So I got out my journal and began to answer What is a good relationship to me? I was surprised how easily the words just flowed and before I knew I had over a page of what a good relationship looks like to me. Things like:
Being loved for who I am
Open honest transparent communication
Listening to each other
Supportive of each other
Caring & kind to each other
Having new experiences together
Sharing different activities together
Warmth and affection
Spending quality time together
Time to be with my own friends
Taking a nap together
Speaking up if you are challenged
Then a miracle happened… I asked the person I love to do the same and we had a really great time sharing each other’s thoughts and ideas. It helped us both to identify what we want and to see each other more clearly.
I encourage you to spend some time this week asking yourself the question “What Is A Good Relationship To Me?” and writing down whatever comes out. It is truly a beneficial and worthwhile exercise and one that is sure to give you some clarity on how to CREATE GREAT LOVE in your own life.
My picture this week came to me as I was shopping around town… it makes me smile cause I LOVE things that sparkle!
“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be… worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.”
– Erica Jong (American Author & Teacher)
Today is a very special blog for me. I am travelling to Europe for my little Brother’s wedding!! I honestly feel that he is so brave and courageous. I dedicate this week’s blog to him and his lovely new wife. May they have a lifetime of CREATING GREAT LOVE together!
Below is the poem I will be sharing at the wedding celebrations. I feel it perfectly sums up my thoughts about LOVE. I hope you enjoy it as well!!
“Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines, and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.
Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all – one known only by those who love.”
My picture this week is the name of a clothing store I came across… the name is just divine!!
“Everything in our life should be based on love”.
– Ray Bradbury (American Science Fiction Writer)
Sometimes realizing you are in love feels like you are out of control, it can feel like you are falling down the rabbit hole. However, it doesn’t have to be this way if you TRUST YOURSELF. You get to set the pace, you get to take small steps so it’s a natural, gentle progression for you. Love should never be forced, it should be comfortable and easy. What is there to rush too anyway? If you stay centered and follow your heart it will always guide you to exactly where you want to be.
There does come a time where LOVE will ask you to grow and stretch yourself. This will inevitably happen. However, no matter how scary it may feel initially, it is important to stay present and open during this time. It is your soul calling you to reach higher, desire more for yourself and your life and encouraging you to TAKE RISKS. Its about expanding your comfort zone. If you lift weights when you go to the gym, after a short while it’s comfortable to stay at the same weight time after time however if you just raise the weight even 5 pounds you will be pushing through your comfort zone. The benefit of this is HUGE. It not only gives you the confidence to go even further the next time, you also feel really good because you have accomplished something that will greatly benefit you and will bring you closer to what you want.
Try this affirmation and really feel the word “ease” and exhale as you say it – “The relationship I want is one of ease.”
My picture this week came to me while I was shopping at the mall… Its delicious and one of the most magical things in life!!
“Love is supposed to be easy. It’s our human dramas that make it difficult.” – Samantha Rosen
It’s important to focus on your desires about love. Otherwise we can find ourselves at old default thinking. What is it you want? Choosing words that are general can really help when you don’t know what the specifics look like. Thoughts like: I want a relationship that is easy, comfortable, soft, gentle and sure, real, honest and true, passionate, vital and alive, full, certain and secure, confident, open, expansive and delicious. (These general words come directly from the wisdom of Abraham through Esther Hicks. You can hear more of their genius on YouTube.)
Distractions and drama can show up unexpectedly in our daily lives if we are not consciously focusing on what it is we want. Sometimes it takes effort to consciously choose our thoughts and pay attention to what we are focusing on, rather than allow negativity to take over us. If we want to see improvement in our lives and in our relationships, positive focus is a necessary step to take. I know that has led a lot of the top athletes and sportspeople to success. Over time they have developed laser point focus. I know we are all capable of this powerful focus when it comes to CREATING GREAT LOVE in our own lives.
Let’s remind ourselves this week to only focus on what we truly want.
My picture this week is a sweet gift given to me by one of my dearest friends…a great reminder to love.
“There is hardly a more gracious gift that we can offer somebody than to accept them fully, to love them almost despite themselves.” – Elizabeth Gilbert (Author of “Eat Pray Love”)
Sometimes life can get so serious that we forget to have fun with LOVE. It feels so good to just relax and let go where love is concerned. It feels so comfortable and easy to just have fun!!
I LOVE having new adventures and new experiences. Sometimes it takes being brave and having the courage to do that. Going somewhere by yourself where you have never been before or just hanging out playing video games together at the arcade are just a couple of examples to open yourself up to having more fun. Perhaps it’s doing something you know your partner would like or just being willing and open to do things a little differently. That is all it takes to CREATE GREAT LOVE in your life. Allowing change can open you up to a whole new world of exciting possibilities. Taking the first step to create more fun, is setting the intention to have fun before you take the action.
Let’s have some fun this week!!
I am very excited to share this week’s picture with you…It is my new logo!!!
“Love is being stupid together.” – Paul Valery (French Poet & Philosopher)