What at does the word attention mean? The dictionary definition is as follows:
notice taken of someone or something; the regarding of someone or something as interesting or important.
I believe that what we put our attention on grows. To help CREATE GREAT LOVE in our lives we must pay attention in order for Love to grow.
So what do we need to pay attention to? Firstly to our own feelings, acknowledging how we are feeling is step one. Then paying attention to someone who is important to us. Asking them how they are and then truly listening to their answer. Staying present when you are with them, not being carried away by other distractions demonstrates GREAT LOVE. It’s a very simple action to take yet it requires us to be aware in each moment.
When I was in high school, my English teacher would give us writing assignments and my mother would say to me “Put yourself in the other persons shoes and write from that perspective”. That was such good advice and applies to creating better relationships with others as well. I believe Actors do this all the time in their work. They pay attention to how their character is feeling in different situations.
I encourage you this week to ask yourself who is important to you? Once you know who that is for you, give them some extra attention.
My picture this week comes from the cupcake bakery in Beverly Hills called Sprinkles. Such loving attention was given in this sweet creation.
“To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work.”
- Mary Oliver
Why is it so difficult sometimes for people to declare their Love for another person? They may fully feel that Love, they may believe it in their heart, yet they are struggling with letting the world know how much they Love this other person in their life.
What is that? Is it fear of failure? Is it fear of commitment? Is it fear of success or fear of change? What holds someone back from declaring their Love? Why keep it a secret? Why hide it? Loving someone is the most natural thing in the whole wide world. OUR TRUEST NATURE IS TO LOVE. So what stops us?
What is stopping you from declaring your LOVE? Why play it safe?
You know when it’s time. You know how you feel. Great Love is to be treasured, nurtured, admired, protected and enjoyed. It is to be celebrated!! If you have GREAT LOVE in your life let it shine so that it may light the way for others.
This week I encourage you to take that leap of faith. Without expectation for the outcome. SIMPLY DECLARE YOUR LOVE. Be unafraid to express it to the world, for in that, you will find true freedom.
My picture this week was a literal sign outside the macaroon store at the mall. Simple and directly to the point.
“I felt that I admired you, but I told myself it was only friendship; and till I began to make comparisons between yourself and Lucy, I did not know how far I was got.”
― Jane Austen
The word ‘GRAND’ is defined as outstanding, impressive, worthy of respect, wonderful, enjoyable and memorable. That is why this week’s blog is dedicated to GRAND LOVE!
Close your eyes for a moment and image what this type of Love would look like to you. Put a big smile on your face and really feel what wonderful, enjoyable Love would be like in your life at this time. Imagine receiving lots and lots of beautiful, delicious hugs and kisses!! Doesn’t it make you feel so happy and so Loved!!!
Another way to feel Grand Love is to contemplate the word EXPANSIVE. A Grand relationship feels open and expansive. Think of the most exquisite view of the Grand Canal in Italy, that big wide open expanse of water. Enlarge your thoughts and your mind, by seeing no limits or boundaries to the type of Love you wish to create for yourself.
My picture this week was taken while I was in the Costco store. It says it all……
I encourage you this week to spend some time daydreaming about your own version of GRAND LOVE.
“Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”
– Mother Teresa
What does the word honest mean? Here are a couple of dictionary definitions – Morally Upright, Truthful or True, Reasonable, Unpretentious, Respectable. When it comes to Love and learning how to Create Great Love being honest is a top priority. I encourage you to do some soul searching about the type of relationship you want, first being honest with yourself. What do you want in a relationship? What does a good relationship look like to you? These are truly important questions to answer for yourself. You might not have all the details but you can contemplate broader thoughts and feelings. One of the first things on my list is EASE. I want my love relationship to be EASY and COMFORTABLE – for both of us. I want a relationship that is honest and real. Passionate and alive. Expansive, fun and exciting. Certain and secure. Full and delicious!
I think the reason people choose to be out of integrity in their relationships is because they are searching for something outside of themselves. They are madly trying to fill up some need or space that is unfulfilled within themselves. In my opinion it is up to us individually to be responsible for our own fulfillment, we cannot expect anyone else to do that for us.
Being honest takes courage. It might mean having an uncomfortable conversation but one you know you need to have. It might mean you have to get very clear and focus only on what you want in your relationships and not giving attention to the things that you don’t like. One thing that is so magical about this new world that we now live in, is if something is out of integrity it will be revealed very quickly because anything that is not based in pure Love can no longer remain hidden. That is such a comforting thought because it means that no matter what TRUE LOVE ALWAYS FINDS A WAY.
I encourage you this week to take some quiet time, being gentle and honest with yourself about what you want in a great relationship. Make some notes, write it down. Get some clarity for yourself.
My picture this week is a sweet reminder that Great Love is a work of art and it’s meant to be truly delicious!!!
“The giving of Love is an education in itself.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
Sometimes life can become routine and we can get stuck in a rut. That is why I have always chosen to purposely be spontaneous as often as possible.
I Love having new adventures and experiencing wonderful new things! It’s so important to allow yourself to be spontaneous whether that means something small like driving a different way to work or being more courageous and packing your bags, heading out for a last minute weekend getaway.
These acts of spontaneity are definitely a way to Creat Great Love. It keeps things fun, fresh, alive and interesting.
I encourage you this week to do something spontaneous that feels right to you. I guarantee you’ll be so very glad you did!
My picture this week……
Within an hour my bags were packed and I was headed to Las Vegas with my sweetheart for the weekend! So much fun!!!! (This picture was taken at the Fred Segal store in SLS Casino)
“Your Love is the greatest gift of all!”
– Jim Brickman
There is nothing sweeter or more wonderful in this whole world than pure, true heartfelt Love for another being. Seeing and watching the person you love stepping into their greatness; that is heartfelt Love. Feeling so proud of who they are and what they do, observing that brings so much joy and pleasure. Also knowing they are proud of you makes everything better. We all need a champion in our corner. Someone who is there for us, who cheers us on, who believes in us and has faith in us.
Heartfelt Love also means following your own heart, being open to Great Love, willingly giving and receiving Love, sharing Love and the wonderful experiences it brings. Being willing to delve deeper into the delicious parts of Love, the exquisite moments of Love that only come when you are no longer afraid of what Great Love can be in your life.
I think that the majority of us have grown up in societies that tell us to listen to the practical thoughts in our head, when truly we all need to be listening to our hearts. Our heart will never lead us astray. What we think and feel with our heart is the purest connection to the magic of the Universe that we have on this earth. We just get to choose whether or not we listen to it.
I encourage you this week to listen to your heart more, rather than your head. The heart always knows the truth.
My picture this week was taken in the Nordstrom department store. It is the perfect reminder. Imagine what life would be like if we all lived this way following our heart ……. truly magnificent!!
“Love is the foundation you can always count on.”
– John-Roger, D.D.S.
For some people it’s easy to give Love but they have a much more challenging time receiving Love. For others they have no problem receiving Love but allow things to get in the way of giving Love. It’s important to be aware of your own give and take around the topic of Love. I do my best to create a balance.
I know of some people who keep a tally, they keep score. That is not real Love. With Great Love you simply give Love because you want to, because it makes you feel so good. And the easiest way to receive Love is just to be open without expectations as to how or when Love will show up. I received the best and most wonderful Valentine’s Day surprise yesterday because I did not have any expectations for the day and what it should look like. I was just open to allowing the day to unfold and it was better than I could have ever imagined! I still have a huge smile on my face!!!
It’s important to make space for Love in your life. It’s important to open your heart to receive Love. In order to do that some level of vulnerability needs to be present. We must allow ourselves to be Loved. When we shut down or close off and put up an emotional wall, nothing can penetrate that. If it happens to you, you may choose to ask yourself what am I afraid of? And is this fear real or imagined? If it happens to someone you Love, simply Love them anyway and allow them the space to feel safe again to come out from behind their wall. It takes courage to remain present and open to Love. The rewards however, are greater than you can possibly imagine.
This week I encourage you to be open to receiving Love. Can you open your heart, even just a little bit to allow the space for Great Love to enter?
My picture this week was taken in the grocery store. It’s so nice to have these reminders around us! I vote for items of Love to be available to us all year round so we can give them whenever we want to, not just when the calendar says we have to.
“We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.”
– Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama