We have all heard the saying “Love is Greater than Fear”. We can hear these words over and over again however the key is to truly believe in them. Love truly is the strongest force on the planet. Love creates the miracle of human life.
When GREAT LOVE exists between two people it really does have the power to move mountains. Simply put – being loved makes you more powerful. When you know you are loved it gives you the courage and strength that you never realized you had. Knowing there is another person who supports you 100% means everything.
Sometimes relationships can get complicated and even a bit messy, however through it all the power of GREAT LOVE is the one and only constant that is always present. When you have that as your knowingness, your foundation and your truth, any illusion of obstacles can be overcome.
You don’t need to know how, you just have to be willing. That’s all it takes is a willingness to open to the power of love and let it guide you because it will if you let it.
My picture this week came to me right outside my front door. It is the most simple and easy expression of LOVE that was there to greet me…the beauty of a couple taking a walk with their dog with his arm gently draped over his sweetheart…that’s true bliss in my book!
“The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase”. – Sir Hugh Walpole (New Zealand born English Novelist & Hollywood Script Writer)
Great Love feels like sweet gentle kisses on the nape of your neck. Great Love feels like intertwining your bodies together from your toes to your legs, arms and hands. Great Love feels like lying on the sofa holding hands while watching TV together. Great Love feels like you are home when you are with your sweetheart. Great Love feels like never giving up. Great Love feels like long hugs where your heartbeats combine. Great Love feels like you just want to be close. Great Love feels like wherever they are you just want to be there. Great Love feels like contributing to each other’s lives making them better in some way. Great Love feels like staring lovingly into each other’s eyes from opposite sides of a room filled with people. Great Love feels like your sweetheart cooking a meal for you just the way you like it. Great Love feels like having a new adventure together. Great Love feels like having an intimate conversation with each other regarding a topic you are passionate about.
When you find your Great Love you just know. It is a feeling deep inside. No matter if there are obstacles to overcome, you are certain they will be solved. No matter how or why. No matter the time, space or distance. No matter what. Where does this knowingness come from? It comes from your soul. From the deepest part of your intuition. From the light that is within you.
My picture this week came to me as I was walking out my front door. Just a day before there was nothing and then today – full bloom – a bright shining sunfilled light. I am certain that Great Love went into the creation of this….
“Love is like a rosebush sometimes it is pruned to reveal only the bare twigs it is then you must have faith and patience that the beautiful roses are on their way and will bloom and flourish into their fullness.” – Samantha Rosen
As I gather my thoughts to write this week’s post I feel some trepidation about the topic I have chosen. This one pushes a lot of people’s buttons – including my own! TRUST in the dictionary is defined as “Someone or something that is reliable, good, honest and effective” and also “Confident expectation of something; hope.” Phew just typing that makes me want to take a deep breath!
Where do I begin?
I think trust for me has become something where my view has truly changed. I used to think that it was the ‘be all and end all’ that if trust was broken, that was it. The final straw. No coming back from that one. However, my observations and experiences have begun to change the way I look at this word and how it is expressed in a relationship. First of all I used to think that if trust was ‘broken’ in some way that it was someone doing this awful thing to me. Now I have come to understand that if trust is broken the person who did that actually did it to themselves. Seeing it from this different perspective has helped me to have compassion for the other person. There can be many reasons why they felt they needed to behave in a certain way – from unresolved childhood issues, to lack of role models, to allowing their ego to take over, the list goes on. I am not advocating for unhealthy relationships, I just feel there needs to be more flexibility in this word TRUST as it pertains to CREATING GREAT LOVE.
Sometimes as human beings we can make things so very complex and complicated. I’m not sure why this happens, maybe we just forget about the simplicity of life. Flowers do not struggle to grow, the sun does not struggle to shine. It’s still shinning above the clouds even when we can’t see it.
I feel the best thing to do is allow someone to be who they are. If you do not like a behavior you are seeing or experiencing you can speak up and express how you feel and then put your focus on the things that you do love and appreciate about them. It’s up to you to change your thoughts on how you perceive things that happen. Once you do this, one of two things will happen – either the person’s behavior will change to meet you where you are focused or they will continue as they are and someone else will come into your life who is more in alignment with what you desire.
One of the best pieces of advice on love came to me from a very wise 7 year old girl she simply said “When you love someone, you just love them.” I could not have put it better myself.
This week’s picture came to me while I was walking by a shop. It’s simple and sweet and a beautiful reminder…..
“We can only learn to love by loving.”
– Iris Murdoch (British Author & Philosopher)
One of the first steps to CREATE GREAT LOVE is to believe in it!
You have to believe it is possible in order to create it for yourself in your life. I feel so truly grateful to have always known and believed in LOVE. It’s just a part of who I am. What is truly amazing about that is I never had any demonstrations of it in my experience growing up. I never saw those around me demonstrating GREAT LOVE but somewhere there was a knowingness that it existed, that is was real and that is was possible for me and for everyone.
What is a belief? A belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over again. So I encourage you to examine what your beliefs are around the topic of LOVE. And if those beliefs are no longer of value to you then begin the process of changing them. How do you do that you may ask? Well it is a moment by moment choice. When you catch yourself having a negative or outdated thought about LOVE, you can choose to pause in that moment and say to yourself “Does this thought feel good to me?” If it doesn’t, then replace it with a thought that does feel good and is more in alignment with the type of GREAT LOVE you wish to CREATE. An example would be “I always have bad luck with love.” The new thought to replace that could be “Today is a fresh new day. I am no longer living in the past. I get to create my love life as I want it to be now.”
Great LOVE is truly magical…Just Believe!
My picture this week continues the hat theme! My dear friend who is a huge tennis fan got into the car with me and this is what she was wearing….
“The past does not equal the future.” – Anthony Robbins
What does GREAT LOVE feel like? It feels like rich dark chocolate – soft and smooth. It feels like red velvet roses such a heavenly scent. It feels fun, sexy, playful, joyful, romantic, delicious. Contemplating Great Love puts a huge smile on your face. It feels like anticipation, it feels exciting, it feels enticing and captivating. It feels gentle and sure. It feels real and true. It feels like love. It feels like being loved. It gives you the warm glow of light from a fireplace or candlelight. It makes you feel cherished, treasured and special. It feels easy and comfortable. It feels good.
How do you CREATE GREAT LOVE? By staying open, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, listening, paying attention to the details. Taking risks, giving love even when you don’t think you have anymore left to give. Speaking your truth, communicating how you feel. Going out on a limb, putting yourself out there. Allowing yourself to be seen just as you are. Seeing and feeling what GREAT LOVE looks like to you in your imagination. Writing about it in your journal. Being kind, being thoughtful. Sometimes it’s being silent and remaining calm despite the outside circumstances. Being present and available. Being comforting and supportive. Focusing on positive thoughts. Seeing the best in another. Having patience. Trusting in the unseen. Knowing that true love always finds a way.
My picture this week came directly into my email inbox….It is such a great reminder!
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“Love cures people – both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.”
– Karl Menninger (American Psychiatrist)
This week I am writing about CHANGE as it relates to LOVE. Why do we so often ask for change yet while we are in the process of receiving change, does it feel so completely terrifying? (You know the part right before it fully arrives, when we don’t yet know the outcome) We know we want change, we know we need change yet that ‘incubation’ period right before it blossoms can cause us to feel such anxiety.
This is the time to hold to our peaceful center, hold to our knowingness, hold to our inner truth. One of my favorite author’s Neale Donald Walsch has a quote that has stayed with me for a long time and really comforts me in times of change. Neale says “All Change is Always for the Better.” When I first heard that statement I didn’t really believe it. My mind initially protested, “Please, how could that be true?” Yet after reflecting back and thinking about actual change that has happened to me in my life. I realized he was absolutely right!
ALL CHANGE IS ALWAYS FOR THE BETTER!!
Change has propelled me forward in my life, has made me happier, has raised me to the next level, has shown me that I have great inner strength. So many wonderful things have come from change. When I think about it, it truly makes me so excited to see what is coming next. Change can be something that happens within our relationship, it can be something that happens within ourselves, it can also be a change from being single to being in a loving partnership. There are many forms of change.
So this week I would like to let you know that you don’t need to be afraid of change anymore. ALLOW IT IN. It is here to lift us up and deliver us to the next part of CREATING GREAT LOVE in our lives.
My picture this week came to me when I got into the car…. there it was from out of the blue……definitely another sign….
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”
– Morrie Schwartz
(Professor & Author. He was the subject of the bestselling book “Tuesday’s with Morrie” by Mitch Albom)
Create Great Love by allowing the deepest part of you to come out – your true self. Maybe even the one you have been afraid to show to anyone. The real you.
Be loved, accepted and appreciated for who you are.
True love is simple. True love is easy. True love is comfortable. True love just flows. True love is natural. True love is light hearted. True love is timeless. True love puts a smile on your face. True love feels amazing!!!
What would it feel like to be with your perfect partner? That is a question I like to ponder as often as I can each day.
Be willing to open your heart to true love. Love that is kind and nourishing. Love that makes you feel like someone is there for you. This kind of love truly makes life so much better.
My picture while driving around town this week shows me that love is about perspective and how you choose to look at things. Often love is staring us directly in the face….
“The true source of lasting love and passion: it starts from within.”
– Tony Robbins