I am discovering that it is not only possible but it is necessary to have freedom within the context of a loving relationship. Feeling free is what I personally value above all else. To be able to be in a relationship yet still be free seems on the surface like two completely opposing forces.
In my parents’ time and for some people today they use the saying “The old ball and chain”. The person who says this and believes it is actually saying “I feel like a prisoner in my relationship”. There is also the other end of the spectrum where people have “Open relationships” which was very prominent in the 60’s and still exists. I know the world is filled with differing perspectives and viewpoints, that is truly a wonderful thing.
I just know for myself in order to CREATE GREAT LOVE there is a way to be in a loving relationship and still be free. I really admire that Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been together for over 30 years yet never felt it necessary to get married. I find that there is something truly special and extraordinary to wake up each day next to the person you love so much and continue to say “I choose you”. “Today I choose to be with you”. There is such an AWESOME POWER in that.
I am certain the more liberated we feel in our relationship the more love we will want to express and give to our partner.
I think a lot of times the reasons people don’t feel free to be themselves is because they feel they need to control the other person or they are scared of how someone else might behave. We know that when we hold on tightly to things it just constricts the flow. However, we need to truly understand how extraordinary and delicious love is when someone chooses you! When someone wants to be with you! If we could all just relax, surrender and allow freedom into our relationships it would feel so refreshing, limitless and amazing to us.
As usual my “sign” this week came to me while I was driving around town………
It’s very clear to me…… I choose a relationship that is expansive, open-ended and where I am completely free to just be me. How about you?
“Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything even when you cannot see the outcome”.
– Deepak Chopra