Now that Valentine’s Day is over for another year I would like to share with you what I learnt yesterday…..
I have decided that the best, most joyful, most peaceful way to be on Valentine’s Day is to have absolutely NO EXPECTATIONS at all. No expectations as to how the day will unfold, no expectations as to what gift you may or may not receive, no expectation as to what you partner may or may not do or say on that day. Why? Because in letting go of how you think things should be, you make room and space for the most WONDERFUL things to show up!!! Things that are EVEN BETTER than you thought possible!!! I have come to understand when we want something so ‘badly’ it squeezes the life force out of it and actually stops us from obtaining it. It also puts a lot of pressure into the situation. Yes we can have desires, yes we can have things we want however, once we know what those desire are, it is then necessary to relax, to be easy about them and to just go about enjoying yourself and your day. Making yourself happy first is vitally important. Then everything else that shows up is a huge bonus!!!
Yesterday I also attended a wedding and something struck me so profoundly that I have now come to understand – just because you get married, does not mean you have any more LOVE or joy than those who are not married. I think some people see marriage as a way to secure their LOVE but that’s not true. The LOVE must be there from the beginning and it can fully and completely exist within the context of marriage or without it. It’s our personal preference about marriage that decides if we choose to experience it or not. You can CREATE GREAT LOVE at any time, with anyone you truly LOVE, under any circumstances in all ways.
My picture this week was taken at the Valentine’s Day wedding!!!
I encourage you this week to think about your idea of GREAT LOVE and what that actually is for you.
“The secret to a happy marriage is if you can be at peace with someone within four walls, if you are content because the one you love is near to you, either upstairs or downstairs, or in the same room, and you feel that warmth that you don’t find very often, then that is what love is all about.” – Bruce Forsyth (British Television Presenter & Entertainer)